Wedding Vendors Do Bar Mitzvahs Too - Video Tutorial

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Bar Mitzvah Videographers, Bar Mitzvah Videos, Bar mitzvah DVD

How do you to capture the spirit of your child’s bar mitzvah? Is there a way to experience the hugs and laughter that you might have missed? Yes! When you have your bar mitzvah recorded by a bar mitzvah videographer, you can relive those moments anytime the mood strikes you. Just imagine playing the DVD for your grandchildren!

Go to ModernMitzvah.com to find great bar mitzvah videographers.

Some bar mitzvah videographers not only film your bar mitzvah and create edited DVDs but actually add to the décor and activities of the day. A wonderful way to impact the flow and focus of the bar mitzvah is to create video montages. A montage or video loop is a collection of your favorite photos and movies from babyhood through the present. With photos from camp, birthdays, sporting events, school plays, family gatherings, and the like, you can produce several loops and play them at different points during the bar mitzvah. Go to MitzvahTV to view hundreds of bar mitzvah montage examples. Also, a good bar mitzvah videographer should have samples of his work for you to see.

The videos of your child’s bar mitzvah are the most important and longest lasting treasures of the day. We’ve prepared loads of detailed information on the top Bar Mitzvah Videographers including samples of their work, tips and trends, philosophy, style, contact information, and packages.

Good Questions to Ask Your Bar Mitzvah Videographer:

• How many years of experience do you have?
• How many bar mitzvahs do you shoot a year?
• Do you work with a spotlight, or do you use natural lighting?
• Will you or your associate be filming my bar mitzvah?
• Do you work with an assistant?
• Do you have liability insurance?
• Can you show us a complete video or DVD from one bar mitzvah? – not just a sample of all of your best movies…
• Can you show us a bar mitzvah video montage?
• Can you describe your philosophy and approach to filming a Bar Mitzvah?
• How many hours of footage will you take?
• How skilled are you at editing digital movies?
• What kind of back up equipment will you bring?
• Can you give us a complete price list with all of your bar mitzvah videography packages?
• Will you work with a shot list?
• Are you aware of the synagogue’s policies and requirements?
• May we speak to one of your recent Bar Mitzvah clients?
• What is your payment/cancellation policy?
• Do you accept credit cards?

Bar Mitzvah Reception Sites, Bar Mitzvah Party Locations, Venues, Catering Halls

Where is this fabulous bar mitzvah party going to take place? It’s the backdrop of your child’s dreams and memories, so this might be your first and most important question to answer.

Our advice: start looking early. Nice bar mitzvah banquet halls (hotels, country clubs, restaurants, synagogues, and other reception sites) book up quickly, because they are being considered by others planning bar mitzvahs, weddings, and corporate events. Many bar mitzvah venues get booked up a year in advance – even sooner.

Location, location, location! Browse our local Bar/Bat Mitzvah venue guide and find a location that suits your needs. ModernMitzvah.com has prepared loads of detailed information on the top Bar Mitzvah venues and reception facilities including photos, tips and trends, style, and contact information.

Good Questions to Ask Your Bar Mitzvah Reception Site Managers:

• How many rooms do you have, and what are their capacities?
• Do you have a floor plan for us you to see, so we can see how the tables are set up and plan our bar mitzvah seating chart?
• How many bar mitzvahs or weddings do you host at one time? Will we be crossing paths with guests from another party?
• Do you have a nice outdoor space available for a bar mitzvah cocktail party?
• What special amenities do you have?
• What’s included in the price, and what do you price separately? (food, beverages, service, centerpieces, linens, china, chair covers, other rentals, etc.)
• Does your Bar Mitzvah venue have a kitchen or will we have to hire a mobile caterer to handle the food service?
• If you provide the bar mitzvah catering, when can we schedule a tasting? Is there a charge for this?
• Which do you suggest for a bar mitzvah in your venue; waiter, family style, or buffet service?
• How do you price your Bar Mitzvah staffing and gratuities?
• How do you handle the pricing of a bar mitzvah that runs overtime?
• Will you recommend other approved Bar Mitzvah service professionals; like photographers, DJs, and florists?
• Do you take a commission from these referrals?
• Are there any special issues that a DJ or caterer will need to understand about your venue?
• Can we see the room set up right before a Bar Mitzvah or wedding? (this is a good idea to see how well the staff performs)
• Will you show us photos from recent bar mitzvahs?
• May we speak to one of your recent Bar Mitzvah clients?
• Do you have liability insurance, and what are the insurance requirements of the outside vendors?
• What is your payment/cancellation policy, and do you accept credit cards?

Bar Mitzvah Photographers, Bar Mitzvah Photo Montage, Bar Mitzvah Photo Album

Finding the right New York bar mitzvah photographer can be a challenge. The photographs of your child’s bar mitzvah are the most important and longest lasting treasures of the day. It’s your way to capture the spirit of the bar mitzvah that tells the story over and over again.

Some bar mitzvah photographers not only take photos and create great coffee table albums but actually add to the décor and activities of the day. Ask your bar mitzvah photographer for creative invitation and program ideas, as well as ways to create enlarged images that match the theme of your bar mitzvah.

A wonderful way to impact the flow and focus of the bar mitzvah is to create video montages. A montage or video loop is a collection of your favorite photos and movies from babyhood through the present. With photos from camp, birthdays, sporting events, school plays, family gatherings, and the like, you can produce several loops and play them at different points during the bar mitzvah. Go to MitzvahTV to view hundreds of bar mitzvah montage examples. Also, a good bar mitzvah photographer should have samples of his work for you to see.

You’re just a snapshot away from the perfect Bar / Bat Mitzvah photographer. ModernMitzvah.com has prepared loads of detailed information on the top Bar Mitzvah Photographers including samples of their work, tips and trends, philosophy, style, and contact information.

Good Questions to Ask Your Bar Mitzvah Photographer:

• How many years of bar mitzvah experience do you have?
• How many bar mitzvahs do you shoot a year?
• Will you or your associate be shooting my bar mitzvah?
• Do you work with an assistant?
• Do you have liability insurance?
• Can you show us a complete album from one bar mitzvah? – not just a sample of all of your best shots…
• Can you show us a bar mitzvah video montage?
• Can you describe your philosophy and approach to photographing a Bar Mitzvah?
• How many photographs will you take?
• How skilled are you at editing digital photography?
• What kind of back up equipment will you bring?
• Can you give us a complete price list with all of your bar mitzvah photography packages?
• Will you work with a bar mitzvah shot list, take formal bar mitzvah portraits, and shoot in a photojournalistic style?
• Are you aware of the synagogue’s policies and requirements?
• May we speak to one of your recent Bar Mitzvah clients?
• What is your payment/cancellation policy, and do you accept credit cards?

Bar Mitzvah Party Planners, Bar Mitzvah Coordinators, Wedding Planners

Planning a Bar / Bat Mitzvah is a big task. How can you find the time find the perfect decorations, the tastiest catering, the hottest band, and the most creative photographer, while taking care of your family and working a fulltime job?

Find qualified bar mitzvah planners at ModernMitzvah.com

Sound tough? Well, yes it is. Planning every detail of a once in a lifetime party, one that is as important as a bar mitzvah, is no small potatoes. It takes time, skill, creativity, and patience, and if you haven’t planned a bar mitzvah before, you’re bound to make a few costly mistakes.

We combed the event industry to find qualified Bar / Bat Mitzvah Planners and special event companies. They will assist you, guide you, plan for you, decorate for you, keep track of it all, and do it all within your budget. Bar Mitzvah planners are life savers as well as inspiring and creative souls that have a talent for understanding you and your child’s mitzvah vision. ModernMitzvah.com is a good place to find these professional party makers!

Good Question to Ask Your Bar Mitzvah Planner:

• How many years of bar mitzvah planning experience do you have?
• How many bar mitzvahs do you plan a year?
• What’s your philosophy on coordinating a Bar Mitzvah?
• How will you incorporate our tastes into the bar mitzvah?
• What are some of the new bar mitzvah trends, and what themes/decorations would you suggest?
• May we speak to one of your recent Bar Mitzvah clients?
• Can you describe your most spectacular Bar / Bat Mitzvah?
• What are some common bar mitzvah pitfalls, and how will you avoid them?
• Are you known for a particular specialty or style?
• How often would we meet to discuss planning our child's bar mitzvah party?
• Do you always use the same bar mitzvah vendors?
• How do you calculate your bar mitzvah coordination fees?
• Can you give us a complete price list will all of your bar mitzvah planning packages?
• What is your payment/cancellation policy, and do you accept credit cards?

Bar Mitzvah Florists, Bar Mitzvah Flowers, Bar Mitzvah Centerpieces, Decorations & Themes

Whether you are looking for a traditional local bar bat mitzvah florist to design and put together arrangements, or you would rather hire an event decorator to create the entire look of your party (bar mitzvah flowers, bar bat mitzvah centerpieces, props, bar mitzvah theme development, bar mitzvah table settings, etc.), it is important to have two things in mind before reaching for a professional bar mitzvah florist.

First, try to imagine how you would like your child’s bar / bat mitzvah to look and feel. Think about color scheme, thematic ideas, the season, the energy, etc. Second, decide on the amount of money you would like to spend. A good bar mitzvah florist will be able to work with your visions, make some great floral and design suggestions, and stay within your budget.

We’ve prepared loads of detailed information on the top local Bar Mitzvah Florists including photographs of their work, tips and trends, videos, and contact information. Take a stroll through our pages of talented bar mitzvah florists and choose a designer to charm your reception.

Good Questions to Ask Your Bar Mitzvah Florists:

• How many years of bar mitzvah decorating experience do you have?
• How many bar mitzvahs do you design and decorate a year?
• What’s your philosophy on designing a Bar Mitzvah?
• How will you incorporate our tastes into your bar mitzvah floral designs?
• What are some of the bar mitzvah floral and design trends, and what decorations would you suggest?
• May we speak to one of your recent Bar Mitzvah clients?
• Can you describe your most spectacular Bar Mitzvah?
• What in season flowers would you suggest?
• Do you have liability insurance?
• Do you charge a consultation fee?
• What are your delivery/set up fees?
• Is our bar mitzvah date available, and how many bar mitzvahs and weddings do you do a day?
• Can I see your florist portfolio?
• What rental items do you have, and what are the costs?
• What happens if the flowers I choose are not available?
• May I visit a Bar Mitzvah to watch you set up?
• Are you familiar with the Bar Mitzvah site that we chose?
• What is your payment/cancellation policy, and do you accept credit cards?

Experienced Bar Mitzvah DJs and Emcees, Bar Mitzvah Entertainment, Bar Mitzvah Dance Music

Most people say that the right music and entertainment make the party great. That’s true, and it’s the New York Bar Mitzvah DJ and Emcee’s job to set the tempo, direct the flow, and bring your bar mitzvah party to life, so it’s smart to find a good Bar Mitzvah DJ to help you to create a successful party.

Experienced bar mitzvah DJ companies will provide you with state-of-the-art lighting, sound systems, and plasma screens, as well as party motivators and the soundtrack to your bar mitzvah. Bring a list of your interests to your bar mitzvah DJ, so they can match the right music with the perfect timing, and keep ALL of your bar mitzvah guests happy.

We did some research to find qualified local Bar Mitzvah DJs and entertainment companies, so ModernMitzvah.com is a good place to find detailed information including their years of experience, specialties, style, photographs, videos, and contact information.

Here are some good question to ask your Bar Mitzvah DJ.

• How many years of bar mitzvah experience do you have?
• How many bar mitzvahs do you do a year?
• Do you have a high energy emcee to grab the attention of our bar mitzvah guests?
• What’s your philosophy on running a Bar Mitzvah?
• Can you give us a complete price list will all of your bar mitzvah entertainment options?
• What are the most popular games of today, and what games will you play with our guests?
• Do you recommend bar mitzvah specialty acts and motivational dancers, and how would you work them into the party?
• How many breaks will you take during the evening?
• Have you done a bar mitzvah at the venue we chose?
• May we speak to one of your recent Bar Mitzvah clients?
• Can you describe your most spectacular Bar Mitzvah performance?
• What are some common bar mitzvah pitfalls, and how can we avoid them?
• Do you have liability insurance?
• What is your payment/cancellation policy, and do you accept credit cards?

Bar Mitzvah Decorations, Bar Mitzvah Themes, Bar Mitzvah Style & Planners

ModernMitzvah.com is a great Bar Mitzvah decoration resource for candles, candle holders, bar mitzvah centerpieces, Judaica, balloons, chocolate fountains, favors, wreaths, flowers, keepsakes, and much more.

Have questions? These bar mitzvah consultants and designers take great pride in their creations and the tailor-made service they provide. Distinctive or offbeat, sophisticated or whimsical, the talented bar mitzvah floral designers and event decorators will create a spectacular atmosphere that’s as unique as your child. These bar mitzvah consultants, floral designers, and decorators will work with you to ensure the perfect bar mitzvah atmosphere and make a lasting impression of your spectacular bar mitzvah.

Bar Mitzvah Bands, Bar Mitzvah Dance Bands, Bar Mitzvah Musicians, Bar Mitzvah Entertainment

Most people say that the right music and entertainment make the party great. That’s true, and it’s the dance band’s job to set the tempo, direct the flow, and bring your party to life, so it’s smart to find a good local Bar Mitzvah Dance Band or Bar Mitzvah Entertainers to help you to create a successful party.

Our local bar mitzvah bands and entertainment companies will provide you with state-of-the-art lighting, sound systems, and plasma screens, as well as party motivators and exciting dance music. Bring a list of your interests to a skilled bar mitzvah band leader, so they can match the right music with the perfect timing, and keep ALL of your bar mitzvah guests happy.

We did some research to find qualified local Bar / Bat Mitzvah bands and entertainment companies, so ModernMitzvah.com is a good place to find detailed information including their years of experience, specialties, philosophy, photographs, videos, and contact information.

Good Questions to ask your Bar Mitzvah band leader.

• How many years of bar mitzvah experience do you have?
• How many bar mitzvahs do you do a year?
• What is the instrumentation of your Bar Mitzvah Band?
• Do you have a high energy MC to grab the attention of our bar mitzvah guests?
• What’s your philosophy on running a Bar Mitzvah band?
• Can you give us a complete price list will all of your bar mitzvah bands and entertainment options?
• What are the most popular games of today, and what games will you play with our with our guests?
• Would you recommend specialty acts and motivational dancers?
• How many breaks will you take during the evening?
• Have you done a bar mitzvah at the venue we chose?
• May we speak to one of your recent local Bar Mitzvah band clients?
• Can you describe your most spectacular Bar Mitzvah? What made your performance outstanding?
• What are some common bar mitzvah pitfalls, and how can we avoid them?
• Do you have liability insurance?
• What is your payment/cancellation policy, and do you accept credit cards?

Bar Mitzvah Caterers, Bar Mitzvah Catering Halls, Banquet Facilities, Bar Mitzvah Locations

So how do you feed your bar mitzvah guests? Well, if you choose to have your reception in a venue (or a tent) that does not provide catering, you will need to hire a mobile Bar Mitzvah caterer. Just make sure you start meeting with them in the beginning of your planning, because the tastiest bar mitzvah caterers book up quickly. Check ModernMitzvah.com to find great bar mitzvah caterers.

Take a peak at their portfolios and menus to get an idea of their style and creativity. They should be able to show you photos of their plated meals (appetizer, side dish, pasta, entrée, and desert), as well as pictures of their hors d’oeuvres and Bar / Bat Mitzvah buffet set up.

In addition to cooking and preparing, your meals, a Bar Mitzvah caterer is responsible for supplying trained wait staff, setting up the tables with china and silverware, stocking and working the bar, and cleaning up at the end of the bar mitzvah. Also, make sure the Bar Mitzvah caterer’s contract is clear about the type and the amount of food that is to be served, as well as how the food is going to be served, and the number of servers they will provide.

Good Questions to Ask Bar Mitzvah Caterers:

• What is your Bar Mitzvah specialty, and how do you create a menu geared to both kids and adults?
• How many years have you been in the catering business?
• What percentage of your catering business is devoted to Bar Mitzvahs?
• Can we make an appointment for a bar mitzvah food tasting? Is there a change for this?
• Do you have liability insurance?
• What is the ratio of staff to bar mitzvah guests?
• When do you require the final bar mitzvah head-count?
• How do you price your Bar Mitzvah staffing and gratuities?
• What’s included in the bar mitzvah catering price, and what do you price separately? (food, beverages, service, centerpieces, linens, china, chair covers, other rentals, etc.)
• Do you charge a bar mitzvah cake cutting fee?
• How do you charge for liquor; straight per person, or per the bottle?
• Can we supply our own bartender and liquor?
• Do you offer a kid’s menu for the below Bar Mitzvah aged kids?
• How do you like to pace the meal serving times? How many courses?
• Will you provide us with a complete and signed catering price list?
• Will you show us photos from recent Bar Mitzvahs your catered?
• May we speak to one of your recent Bar Mitzvah catering clients?
• What is your payment/cancellation policy, and do you accept credit cards?

ModernMitzvah.com

Your Ultimate New York Bar Mitzvah Resource

Welcome! Our web site is designed to help you plan the New York Bar / Bat Mitzvah of your dreams.

We believe this site represents the best bar/bat mitzvah services that New York has to offer. There’s so much to see; you will find bar mitzvah caterers, bar mitzvah photographers, bar mitzvah videographers, bar mitzvah venues, bar mitzvah planners, bar mitzvah florists, bar mitzvah entertainers, bar mitzvah musicians, bar mitzvah DJs, and much, much, more – it’s all here!

We’re also happy to provide you with a load of free bar mitzvah planning goodies. Enjoy our bar mitzvah timeline, checklist, free mitzvah website builder, bar mitzvah budgeting tool, mitzvah planning chat rooms, real bar mitzvah essay contest, Mitzvah Moms Blog, Mitzvah TV, and guest list manager, as well as our “Tips and Trends” advice column written by party experts in your area.

Take an exciting web ride with us, and explore all that our New York Bar Mitzvah guide has to offer.

Hotels & Accommodations for your out of town Bar Mitzvah Guests

Hotels & Accommodations for your out of town Bar Mitzvah Guests

Are you looking for a great hotel to extend a welcoming hand to your out-of-town bar mitzvah guests? The accommodations that you choose are an important extension of your child’s bar mitzvah, because the decisions that you make here will help to create the feel of the entire event.

Are you looking for urban or rustic, gigantic or intimate? ModernMitzvah.com has provided you with a complete listing of all types of accommodations, including hotels, bed and breakfasts, inns, and retreats. Check out the detailed information on the top bar mitzvah accommodations including photographs, descriptions, and contact information.

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Good Questions for Bar Mitzvah Limousine company

Have you narrowed your bar mitzvah limo service down to a few trustworthy companies? Did you look on www.ModernMitzvah.com to search your local Bar Mitzvah Limo Service directory?

Here are a few other considerations:

1. What style vehicle are you looking for?
Coach, stretch limo, carriage, old style cars, classic, limo bus, town car??? Which limo company has what you're looking for? Also, consider your budget and the number of passengers you will be carrying.

2. You want your bar mitzvah guests to be safe. How many seat-belts are available for passengers?
The limo company will tell you how many people fit in their cars, but you don't want to squeeze guests into a tight space like sardines. To make sure they have the space to sit comfortably, ask about the number of seat belts the vehicle has. This will give you the actual number of passengers the vehicle was designed to carry. Smart?

3. Ask to see the actual vehicle that you will have on the day of your bar mitzvah.
Can you pop in to see the actual car that you'll get for transporting your bar mitzvah guests, or will they send you photos? If you are viewing pictures on a website, make sure they are up to date, and are of the actual car, not just a stock photo. You don't want the driver showing up in a chicken coop.

4. What is the age and condition of the vehicle?
Stretch limousines need repair and regular maintenance. Has the limo company been keeping up with their vehicles? You don't want to run into limo trouble on the day of your bar mitzvah.

5. How will the car be prepared on the day of your bar mitzvah?
Be sure to ask the limo company manager to clean the limo on the morning of your bar mitzvah, inside and out. Also, make sure they check the lights, television, radio, and other amenities to ensure that they are working properly. Make sure they clean the glasses and restock the snacks and drinks.

6. Is the vehicle covered with company logos and advertisements?
This might not make you feel very special on your bar mitzvah day. If there are a few ads or signs, where are they located? How visible are they?

7. How does the company select chauffeurs?
Are the drivers trained to carry out the luxury of the car by being courteous and professional? Are they licensed to drive in your state? How are drivers screened for drug use?

What is the company's deposit and cancellation policy.? It should be in the contract. Be sure to check for this before you sign. If you have to cancel, will you be able to get your deposit back in full? Don't forget to find out about final payments as well—will a check or cash on the day of your bar mitzvah - or will you have to pre-pay weeks in advance? Do they accept credit cards?

Take note of the way each limousine company handles your questions, because this is an excellent indicator of their professionalism and approach to customer service. If a company is not willing to answer your questions in a kind manner, keep moving, and look for a company that gives you informative and courteous answers to your questions. Good customer service leads to a good, clean, safe car on the day of your bar mitzvah.

Bar Mitzvah Themes and Invitations

Bring all the glamour and excitement of New York without ever having to buy an airplane ticket or pay for a hotel. A New York City theme party is perfect for a bar mitzvah. Go to www.ModernMitzvah.com to find great bar mitzvah service providers.

Try sending theater style tickets as bar mitzvah invitation – to the theater, sporting events, train or subway. So what better way to invite your guests to a night in New York than with an actual ticket? There are plenty of great invitation companies on www.modernmitzvah.com that can create fabulous ticket invitations just for you. There are so many options. Just ask.

If you want a more traditional invitation, personalized New York themed invitation. Or use a great black and silver (or gold!) City Skyline Invitation or a die-cut Skyscraper Invitation. Put skyline confetti in the envelope for a special touch.

Do you have your own creative juices? Design your own invitation in the shape of an apple (remember New York is The Big Apple) or a skyscraper. Use bright red paper for the apple and shiny silver for the building. Write the party information on the back in black or silver pen.

New York Decorations and Party Ideas

New York is an amazing and dynamic city, so there are tons of ways to create a New York City Themed Bar Mitzvah. Here are some highlights! Central Park is one of New York’s most famous and beautiful landmarks. Or create a New York theater or jazz club vibe. Create the nightlife with votive candle holders in the shape of the Empire State Building; they will make a wonderful entrance to your bar mitzvah. Try small, white twinkle lights on bushes and trees.

Check out this link to find help with New York Bar Mitzvah Decorations.


What's the first thing your bar mitzvah guests will see? Try making a cityscape banner – a general party welcome or one to a New York City landmark - “Welcome to the Weinstein 21 Club” or “Live at Madison Square Garden, the Josh Weinstein Band.” As your guests enter the party room, be sure that you're setting the mood with some classic NYC style music.

Meet some New York bar mitzvah DJs on www.modernmitzvah.com - they have all the answers when it comes to creating a great party vibe. Be sure to describe your idea situation and let them make some bar mitzvah music suggestions. Your New York bar mitzvah DJ can spin records from the the 40s to present and have entertaining sounds for all of your guests.

Bar Mitzvah Florists and Centerpieces

First of all, I think www.modernmitzvah.com is a great resource for finding qualified bar mitzvah vendors. Start here, and you'll be all good!

Bar Mitzvah Centerpieces Tip:

Make sure that your centerpieces are no higher than 14" or your guests will not be able to see the guest sitting across the table from them. You may have your bar mitzvah florist design something with some height like balloons with base ribbons that will not block your guests view of each other and that won't interfere conversation. No matter what your bar mitzvah centerpieces are, the goal is to not block your guests from seeing each other.

Here's a few of my own bar mitzvah table centerpiece ideas. I hope you like them.

How about personalizing your bar mitzvah centerpieces? Guests always comment on the bar mitzvah centerpiece, so why not personalize your bar mitzvah centerpiece? Try a three-sided, 3D centerpieces are made from 3/16” thick foam with a unique photo on all 3 sides, so everyone at the table gets a view. Feature a different set of photos for each bar mitzvah centerpiece, and have a great conversation starter!

Choosing Your Bar Mitzvah DJ Company

Selecting the right DJ Entertainment for your bar mitzvah is a serious part of the party planning task. Ask any parent who has had a Bar Mitzvah and they will tell you that the Entertainment plays a critical part in the success of the party. After choosing your bar mitzvah location, the next vendor that should be hired is the bar mitzvah entertainment company or bar mitzvah DJ.

Go to www.ModernMitzvah.com to find great local bar mitzvah DJs.

Keeping a crowd of 13 year olds, 30 somethings, and older adults happy, entertained, and on the dance floor, demands a certain level of expertise. If all of these groups liked the same music bar mitzvah entertainment would be a no-brainer, but as you know, this is not the case. So, keep this in mind when choosing to hire a bar mitzvah DJ. Make sure the bar mitzvah DJ has experience in these kinds of events. A bar mitzvah DJ is different than a club DJ...Ask to see photos of the bar mitzvah dj in action.

Different age groups like different music - fact, but there are interactive and fun dances that both can enjoy at the same time. This is where your MC (master of ceremonies) comes in. An experienced Bar Mitzvah MC can have a crowd of adults and kids out on the floor together having a blast.

Aside from handling the candle lighting ceremony, the grand entrance, and various introductions, your Bar Mitzvah MC is the chief motivator and leader of your bar mitzvah. It's important to have an experienced bar mitzvah MC on the dance floor with a microphone to lead your guests through interactive dances and games. Your Son or Daughter is the star of the show and the MC's job is be right there making sure everyone is having fun while paying the right amount of recognition to the guest of honor at whatever level the Bar or Bat Mitzvah feels comfortable. This should be discussed in detail during the planning process, so your child is neither neglected or embarrassed by the bar mitzvah DJ or MC.

All Bar Mitzvah DJs and MCs are different, so make sure spend enough time with any potential bar mitzvah entertainment company you are considering to see if they match your personalities. This will be very important when your bar mitzvah date arrives, and you'll have to count on him or her to ensure the success of your bar mitzvah.

Make sure the bar mitzvah DJ company you are thinking about hiring has a special MC for bar mitzvahs. Bar Mitzvahs are different from wedding in that it takes a little more skill to handle a large group of 12 and 13 year olds than it does to entertain a group of 30 somethings. There is a lot for the MC to keep track of to make sure things run smoothly (making sure the photographer and videographer are ready before an important moment, shutting down any side entertainment before a candle lighting, being by your son or daughter's side during the candle lighting to name a few). It's a good idea to let the Bar Mitzvah DJ play the CDs, and allow the bar mitzvah MC the freedom to run the party.

Some bar mitzvah DJ companies also bring motivational dancers that can help get the kids and adults on the dance floor. This is very popular. They are available through most DJ companies who specialize in Bar Mitzvahs. The dancers are young and energetic, and they work right along side the bar mitzvah DJ and MC. They help fill the dance floor and lead the interactive dances.

Many DJ companies will supply colorful lighting, dance stages, and special effects like dry ice machines and strobe lights. They can completely transform a stale dining room into a rocking night club.

What's the best way to get a feel for a bar mitzvah DJs style? Ask the entertainment company to send you their demo DVD. Most good Bar Mitzvah Entertainment companies will have video footage of their entertainers working bar mitzvahs and weddings. After watching the bar mitzvah DJs demo dvd you can make a sound decision about whether you think they are a perfect fit for your child's bar or bat mitzvah.

Spend some time on www.modernmitzvah.com and look at company brochures. You'll see party pictures, testimonials, tips and trends article, and more. Also, check out MitzvahTV!

Start this process right away, because it is common for some of the more popular companies to book 2 years in advance. When you have narrowed your search to about 4 companies, call them up and make appointments to meet in person. Best of Luck!

Hiring a Bar Mitzvah Photographer

When you’re looking at planning a bar mitzvah, you have a lot of things to consider: food, entertainment, guest list, and an experienced bar mitzvah photographer. Go to www.ModernMitzvah.com for a great set of FEE bar mitzvah planning tools and a complete vendor directory full of experienced bar mitzvah service providers.

The first question that often pops up when deciding on a bar mitzvah photographer is whether you have the budget for this expense. A good photographer is not a cheap investment. Many bar mitzvah photographers charge the same amount for bar mitzvah photography as they do for wedding photography. There are some ways to keep the costs down. Ask the bar mitzvah photographer to see his packages and different price points. You might also try to find a cheaper way to develop your pictures, like developing them on your own. Also, look on ModernMitzvah to find lower cost photographers in your area as well.

Do you want professional bar mitzvah pictures? When you’re considering a professional bar mitzvah photographer, you might find that getting professional pictures is on the top of your list, because photos are something you'll keep coming back to year after year, and you'll be happy you hired a professional bar mitzvah photographer the day you should these pictures to your grandchildren. These are trained professionals that understand how to take the right angles and choose the best lighting for your child and their friends. An experienced bar mitzvah photographer knows how to set up lights to make your child's bar mitzvah look like a rock concert or any bar mitzvah theme you can dream of.

Formal Bar Mitzvah Photos - A good bar mitzvah photographer will also know what locations will work for formal shots and how to line everyone up in group pictures. Unlike having a friend or family do this, the photographer already knows what needs to be done and can save you time in the process.

Most importantly, you and your child want to enjoy the bar mitzvah, so you want to hire someone that you can count on to take charge and capture the entire day without you having to dictate his shots. When you try to cut costs by taking the pictures yourself or letting someone else in the family do it, you are limiting their ability to experience the party for themselves. It's best to make a clear shot list with the bar mitzvah photographer, then turn your worries over to a professional, and let them do their job. You'll be able to enjoy your child's bar mitzvah, and you'll be happy with the results.

Bar Mitzvah Planning Checklist

18 Months Before Your Bar Bat Mitzvah
• Set the date for the big day.
• Sign up with modernmitzvah.com and get involved in the chat rooms and blogs.
• Confirm Torah Portions with the Rabbi.
• Start preparing for the Dvar Torah by discussing one idea a day.
• Start talking about mitzvah projects.
• Book the synagogue.
• Start thinking about the guest list and number of kids to invite.
• Check out the ModernMitzvah.com local guides, and call the vendors that you are interested in.

12 Months Before Your Bar Bat Mitzvah
• Based on vendor proposals and guest count, begin to work out a budget.
• Once you're happy with the proposals and contracts hire the caterer, band/DJ, photographer, videographer.
• Find out the actual date for your child's tutoring.
• Find out the synagogue's time line for completing the dvar Torah, the mitzvah project, and other requirements.
• Start discussing the Torah as a family.
• Start thinking about your invitations and get ideas from ModernMitzvah.com's “Tip & Trends” section.
• Pick a theme and speak with a planner about making your ideas come to life.
• Build your own personal mitzvah website on ModernMitzvah.com – upload photos, tell your story, list the schedule of events, and more!
• If you have out-of-town guests coming, find a hotel in our directory, and reserve a block of rooms.
• As your family and close friends to mark the date on their calendars.
• Begin to attend Bar/Bat Mitzvah services to get a feel for the synagogues approach, and start preparing questions for the rabbi.

9 Months Before Your Bar Bat Mitzvah
• Set up a meeting with the rabbi, and start tutoring.
• Find out exactly what your child's responsibilities are, and get a clear time line of the progression of events.
• Find out exactly what your responsibilities are with regards to the service and the synagogue.
• Finalize your guest list, and use your personalized www.ModernMitzvah.com website to keep track of your RSVPs.
• Choose your invitations.
• Use your website to inform your guests of times, locations, festivities, and accommodations.
• Discuss your decorating plans, and hire a planner if you're using one.

6 Months Before Your Bar Bat Mitzvah
• Check with the tutor to see how your child is doing.
• Your child begins drafting the dvar Torah.
• If your son is laying tefillin, get them now, and have someone teach him the proper method.
• Finalize your centerpiece concept, and if you're making them yourself, start getting the materials together.
• Order special imprinted items: kippot and party favors, etc.

4 Months before Your Bar Bat Mitzvah
• Speak with the rabbi or cantor about special music or readings that you would like to have during the service.
• Start planning the menu.
• Start looking at cakes – find the sweetest treats in your area on ModernMitzvah.com.
• Start shopping for your wardrobe.

3 Months Before Your Bar Bat Mitzvah
• Check in with the tutor to see how your child is doing.
• Think about your speech and the possibility of adding special poems or readings.
• Write your first draft.
• Address and stuff your envelopes.

2 Months Before Your Bar Bat Mitzvah
• Prepare the list of aliyot, and practice the Hebrew readings.
• Mail the out-of-town invitations.
• Speak with the banquet manager at the reception hall to go over the setting of the tables.
• Make some plans to do something relaxing on the day before the service.

6 Weeks Before Your Bar Bat Mitzvah
• Meet with the DJ to choose the song list and games.
• Parents, finalize your speech.
• Help your child with the dvar Torah and write a thank you speech.
• Follow up with all of your vendors to be sure that your requirements will be met.
• Use your personal www.ModernMitzvah.com web page to inform guests of times, location, accommodations, and events.
• Make sure all of your out-of-town guests have transportation to your service and reception.

3 Weeks Before Your Bar Bat Mitzvah
• Give your caterer the final guest count. You might need to call the guests that you haven't heard from.
• Build your seating chart and create the escort cards.
• Get all of your alterations done.
• Make up your welcome baskets for out-of-town guests and arrange for them to be placed in the hotel rooms.
• Start working on the bathroom decorations and necessities.
• Arrange for transportation of children from the synagogue to the reception.

1 Week Before Your Bar Bat Mitzvah
• Hold your service rehearsal in the synagogue.
• Give Aliyah list to the rabbi or the cantor.
• Give a last “head-up” call to all of your vendors to double check times, location, and responsibilities.
• Relax, it's going to be wonderful!

The Day Before Your Bar Bat Mitzvah
• Take a long walk in the park with your child, and let he or she know how proud you are of them and of the work they've accomplished.
• Enjoy your prearranged plans for the day.

Choosing Your Bar Mitzvah Location

Your Bar Mitzvah is coming up quickly, and its time to find the right bar mitzvah venue. While the bar or bat mitzvah ceremony will probably take place at your synagogue, the bar mitzvah party can be anywhere. This choice is completely up to you, and here are some important things to keep in mind when choosing the bar or bat mitzvah party location. Check www.ModernMitzvah.com for local bar mitzvah sites.

1. Bar Mitzvah Timing: If the party is going to be right after the ceremony, consider the distance you want to ask guests to drive. Don't pick a location thats an hour away from the synagogue and ask everyone to drive. You might lose some of your bar mitzvah guests, so please, do you best to keep the two different locations close together and simple to get to.

2. Your Bar Mitzvah Budget: Yes, you need to keep your budget in mind. Some people would rather spend more of their budget on the location, because after all, it is the backdrop to your child's once in a life time event, and the place you have your bar mitzvah will contribute to the over feel of the event. Some people like to and spend more on decorations, food, clothes, and the like. Others would rather find a more casual location and save their money for out-of-this-world entertainment. Consider your budget and your priorities when looking at sites.

3. All-Inclusive Versus Do-It-Yourself Bar Mitzvah Sites: There are many sites that will do everything for you. They have tables to offer, catering on the premises and even waiters to serve the food. Other locations just offer the four walls and you need to bring everything else. You have to decide how much you want to coordinate yourself, and how much you are willing to organize and balance. When you go to see sites, makes sure to ask directed questions about whats included and what isn't.

These ideas are just the beginning. There will be more to follow. But, they'll give you a taste of things to think about as this big day approaches and you start looking for a site to celebrate!

Bar Mitzvah Planning Tips

A bar or bat mitzvah is a major milestone in the life of a Jewish family. This event marks the time when a girl (usually at the age of 12) or a boy (usually at the age of 13) accepts himself as an adult in the Jewish religion. In a religious sense, this would mean that he or she would start keeping mitzvot such as lighting candles, fasting on holidays, praying with a group of 10, etc.

While not all Jewish people observe these mitzvot, they still see a bar or bat mitzvah as a turning point in a child's life and as a time when the child moves from the stage of childhood to adolescent.

So, what do all of these ideas mean for the event that you are planning? There are certainly many things to discuss, but most of them can be boiled down into a few key points.

1. Try, in your planning, to keep in mind the purpose. Many people get swept up in the event and forget what the event is for. It becomes simply a big party and loses much of its meaning. If possible, try to keep your perspective and your child's perspective. You can do this by emphasizing the learning they are doing in preparation, by creating charity projects attached to the event, etc.

2. Consult with your child. Yes, you want to create a nice event, but the event is really intended to surround your child's achievement. Within reason, include him or her in the process. Does she want a violin at the affair? Is she interested in having a belly dancer or will she find it to be too much? Is she capable of pushing herself to learn more and to give a speech at the event? Bring her into the process with you for a much more rewarding experience.

3. Ignore the neighbors. Im sure that you have great friends and family who mean well. But, this is your event. Do it the way you want to do it, and not the way that everyone else has or the way that they want you to.

Enjoy this special time in the life of your family. Remember it only comes once!

How To - Bar Mitzvah Invitations

INVITATIONS
Traditional Bar Mitzvah Invitations: Bar Mitzvah invitations do not have to follow any strict rules, but using a heavy card stock of while cotton or linen paper engraved with black or charcoal ink is a choice of sophistication. For a more masculine feeling bar mitzvah invitation try using block lettering or simple italic, and for a sweet, feminine feeling bat mitzvah invitation try a calligraphed text.

Funky Bar Mitzvah Invitations: To move away from the standard bar mitzvah invitation some parents and bar mitzvah kids are using papers in unusual sizes, colors, and even exotic materials like rubber, metal, and fabric. What\'s your Bar Bat Mitzvah theme? This is good place to start when coming up with a good unconventional invitation idea.

Ok, Now Do I Write In The Bar Mitzvah Invitation? Well, of course you should start with the basics like who, what, when, where, and why. You may also want to incorporate Hebrew on the invitation by writing the child’s given Hebrew name underneath his English name, and try adding Bais Hey in the upper right hand corner of the invitation. These Hebrew characters signify a traditional blessing. Also, you may want do a double-sided invitation where one side is written in English and the other in Hebrew. This works well if you're going to have a very religious service. For divorced parents, the mother’s name can be written first, with the father’s name beneath on its own line.

Sample text:
It is with great pride and joy that we invite you to join us as our son
____________ [Child’s first and middle names]
____________ [Child’s Hebrew name]
Is called to the Torah as a Bar Mitzvah
Saturday, March 14 [day of the week, month, and date of service]
at three o\'clock [time of service] in the afternoon [time of day]
Miami Temple [name of synagogue]
Two Hundred Main Street [address of synagogue]
Miami, Florida [city and state where Bar Mitzvah will take place]
Josh and Mira Weinstein [proper names of those hosting]
Reception at The Oaks Mansion [location]

When to Order/Send: Invitation orders should be placed three to four months before the Bar Mitzvah date. The sooner the better so you can proof them, make changes, and address the envelopes, and keep in mind calligraphers require up to two weeks to address 100 invitations. The most common time to send out invites is six weeks before the party, though eight weeks is ideal (10 weeks for guests coming from abroad).

REPLY CARDS
Going Traditional: the typical bar mitzvah reply card asks the guest to check a box letting you know many people will attend the Bar Mitzvah’s ceremony and reception. Make sure you add the date for the return of the reply card.
Making it a little different: To accommodate your guests with dietary concerns, you may add menu options to your Bar Mitzvah reply cards, so that guests can choose what they wish to eat, and so the caterer can be fully prepared for the number of vegetarian or alternative meals needed.

Stamps: Personalizing your child’s postage stamps is a pretty cool idea. Check out PhotoStamps.com and choose a photograph, monogram, or a logo that matches your bar mitzvah invitation.

RECEPTION CARDS
Traditional Style: Add these small bar mitzvah reception cards are in the invitation if your Bar Mitzvah is being held in the evening or at a location other than the synagogue. Bar Mitzvah reception cards are also a great option if your child is having a kids-only party, in which the same people will not be invited to the service and the reception. The reception cards will include the celebration date, place, and time.

To Make it Fun: Take this opportunity to really showcase your theme, especially if you went with a more formal bar mitzvah invitation style. Use baseball-shaped cards for a Bar Mitzvah boy who is way into sports - this can work for bat mitzvah girl who is way into sports too. ; ) The main idea is to make this part of the invite a little more fun and playful, so your guests know it's time to party. Even something as simple as a wacky font can help change the vibe.

THANK-YOU CARDS
Sending Traditional Bar Mitzvah Thank You Cards: These cards are used to thank guests for their gifts and attendance at your child’s Bar Mitzvah, and usually feature your child’s monogram. This daunting task is keeping track of who was there and what they gave as a gift, because it's nice to personalize each bar mitzvah thank you card.

Go to www.ModernMitzvah.com to choose your Bar Mitzvah Invitations, invites and stationary.

Adding something special: Do you think it would be nice to send a picture card or postcard featuring a fun photo of your child from the Bar Mitzvah? Go to Shutterfly.com or KodakGallery.com for more bar mitzvah photo ideas.

Send these thank you cards when?- As a common rule of thumb, bar mitzvah thank-you notes should be sent out within two weeks upon receiving any gifts before the Bar Mitzvah day. For those who brought gifts to the Bar Mitzvah, thank-yous should be sent out within a month.

Top 5 Bar Mitzvah Budgeting Tips

1. TRIM YOUR GUEST LIST
Yeah right, this one ain't easy, and we know that this is a huge party, and it seems as if you're supposed to invite everyone you know. Fine, but if you're struggling to squeeze it all together, cutting back on the bar mitzvah guest list is the best way to cut costs. Keep the following in mind:

TIP: go to www.ModernMitzvah.com to find some pretty cool (and FREE) bar mitzvah planning tools. - there's a great budget calculator, a website builder for the kids, a bar mitzvah guest list manager, and a checklist and timeline.

* Remember to Be Fair. If you are planning a party that includes kids and adults, try to keep the balance between your friends and the bar mitzvah child's friends. Sit down and write up your bar mitzvah guest "wish list" and figure out between yourselves who absolutely needs to be there. Also, kid's meals are cheaper than adult meals, so you might be able to load more kids onto your bar mitzvah guest list without going over budget.

* Don't cut the guest list by planning for no-shows. You're much better off being surprised by the number of guests who decline and getting to invite some new people a little late in the game than being overwhelmed when all of your guests accept your invitation, leaving you with more people than chairs.

2. TIMING IS KEY
Saturday night is a super hot Bar Mitzvah night - yeah party!!! - but it's also the most expensive night to celebrate, because you'll be competing with weddings, anniversaries, etc, and most vendors and service providers charge top dollar for Saturday evenings. It's the busiest day of the week, and it's the night these vendors try to cash in.

* If you must have your bar mitzvah on a Saturday night, make sure you jump on the task of planning good and early, and there might be a chance to cut a deal, save some cash if you book way in advance. We can't stress this enough, available vendors and locations on Saturdays get booked up super fast, so it's best to get out there as soon as possible to seek out the finest bar mitzvah vendors.

* You can also think about having your bar mitzvah on an off night, or maybe have a daytime bar mitzvah. You'll not only likely have a better selection of people and places to choose from, you'll also save some cash when hiring bar mitzvah vendors.

3. DO IT YOURSELF AND SAVE SOME LOOT
Have you thought about taking care of some things on your own to save money? We understand that there's already tons to do - the planning of a bar mitzvah is no little task, but taking some time to figure out what party details you can do yourselves could make up for in cash what they take up in time.

* Here's a D.Y.I Tip - If you plan on hiring a rental company and a bar mitzvah planner to dress your tables for you, think about doing that part of the bar mitzvah reception yourself. Go to a discount fabric store and pick out similar material. Ask around, bring a friend, get some help with the sewing, just cut the edges to make it neat, and put them over plain or white-clothed tables, and presto, you're done.

4. LOCATION LOCATION LOCATION
Having your party at home is a smart way to save if you're having a small-size bar mitzvah, but if you're planning a big, formal bash, it's probably best to look for a venue suited for bar mitzvahs.

* Keep this mind Do It Yourselfers: Most people do not have a lighting rig, a dance floor, tables and chairs, the flatware, and a full catering kitchen accommodate a party of 125, so you'll be renting everything from bar mitzvah vendors, and there will be a price to pay to have it all delivered and set up. So, finding a location that has an all inclusive deal will be a smarter move for big parties. They'll be able to provide you with many of your needs, from cups and plates to tables and chairs, and since these types of places hold events often, they'll also have connections when it comes to helping you find the other event pros you need.


5. GET YOUR PRIORITIES STRAIGHT
It's time to ask yourself, what is most important? What aspect of my child's bar mitzvah do I really want to shine? The food? The music? The bar mitzvah photography or videography?

* Make a list of all the vendors you will need to hire, then put a special mark next to the ones that you think are special. Is the bar mitzvah entertainment most important? - put a star next to that on your list.

* Invest your time and money on all the items and activities at the top of your list - the aspects with the most stars. As for the stuff that sits at the bottom of your list, be frugal where possible, but don't forget to make sure your bar mitzvah guests are still comfortable, well fed, happy and well informed. Don't skip the essentials because they're not the "fun" show stoppers.

Bar Mitzvah Catering Considerations

BAR MITZVAH CATERING BUDGET
Bar Mitzvah Caterers charge per person, and if you're doing a big dinner, the cost is usually about 40% of your overall budget. Do a little simple math, divide the number of guests you have in mind with 40% of the budget amount, and see if it works. This will give you a sense of what you can afford.

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THE BAR MITZVAH MEAL
If you've already booked your bar mitzvah venue, you might also know what type of meal you're having. If this has not been taken care of, think fast, then reserve a location as soon as possible. Dinner is the bar mitzvah meal most commonly served, and it's also the most expensive. If it's out of your budget, think about having a brunch or breakfast instead, because it will cost must less. Tea or cocktails can also be an affordable alternative, but they work with an adult only party. Here are

THE SERVICE
Talk to your bar mitzvah caterer or bar mitzvah planner about the style of your party, and let them help you decide on how to serve your bar mitzvah guests. Most of the service styles work well in any type of bar mitzvah, but they do vary in cost. Ask your caterer to fix up a good proposal for you outlining the different styles and price points.

Servers
· Cocktails

· Passed hors d'oeuvres

· Hors d'oeuvres tables

Seated Meal
· Family style - Large platters that are set on each table

· American

· French

· Russian (white gloves)

Buffet
· Formal (staff-served)

· Casual (self-serve)

· Food stations (e.g. raw bar, crepe table)


THE FLAVOR
Think it over, go to tastings at catering halls, ask questions, have fun!
· Continental

· Regional

· Seasonal

· Exotic

· Ethnic

· Thematic

THE COURSES
Create your mouthwatering bar mitzvah meal.
· Hors d'oeuvres

· Soup

· Fruit and cheese

· Appetizer

· Pasta

· Dessert

· Salad

· Entree

THE MEAL REQUIREMENTS
What are some of the needs and preferences of some of your guests. Considering them should be a top priority.
· Kosher

· Vegetarian

· Halal

· Other

THE BAR MITZVAH ENTREES
Start with the main ingredients of the main course - the basics, then ask your caterer to offer his advice of its accompaniments.
· Beef

· Chicken

· Vegetarian

· Pork

· Seafood

· Lamb

· Pasta

SOME OTHER FOOD IDEAS
Is there anything else you imagine you and your guests feasting on? - like some sweet little treats, a chocolate fountain, sushi???

AHHHH, THE DESSERT
Cake or cupcakes cool? Or are you longing for a massive Viennese table stocked with pastries and treats?
· Cake only

· Additional desserts

DRINKIN' ALCOHOL
Got a drinkin' crowd? Ok. Here are some options.
· Full bar (Open or Limited hours)

· Beer and wine only

· Wine with dinner

· Specialty cocktail

Top Rated Bar Mitzvah Menu Tips

1. Choose a time and place for your bar mitzvah meal.
Before you choose the bar mitzvah menu, you need to know which meal you\'re serving, so first, decide on the time of your party. Is it going to be a bar mitzvah breakfast (9:00-11:00 a.m.), brunch (11:00 a.m.-2:00 p.m.), lunch (12:30-3:30 p.m.), or dinner (6:00-9:30 p.m.).

2. Decide how many bar mitzvah guests you're having.
The number of guests will play a part not only in the amount of money you can spend, but it\'s also important in deciding what to serve. You have to think about how long it will take to prepare, cook, plate and serve -- one of the biggest problems with party food is the amount of time it takes between food preparation and service. That creamy seafood in puff pastry looks great in the kitchen, but by the time it gets to table 23, the cream may have soaked through the pastry, creating a goopy mess. When servicing over 100 bar mitzvah guests make sure you choose foods that can sit in the kitchen for a few minutes before turning into a pumpkin.

3. Keeping your bar mitzvah menu interesting
When choosing your bar mitzvah menu, whether it is brunch, hors d'oveures, or a six-course meal, you need to make sure you mix it up a bit by varying the flavor, texture, appearance, temperature, and color to keep all of the senses stimulated. Ask your caterer to help you mix and match these elements. Your caterer can also make suggestions based on his experience in the industry. Go to www.modernmitzvah.com to find a good local bar mitzvah caterer.) Your bar mitzvah caterer will know how to keep your bar mitzvah guests' tastes in mind and make sure everyone can find something good to eat. Remember this is a bar mitzvah, and you'll be mixing adults and kids. Grandpa Ari's tastes will be different than Josh's 13-year-old friend Bobby.

4. Go to see your bar mitzvah caterer for a free tasting.
You should definitely meet your bar mitzvah caterer, see the bar mitzvah hall (if they're the same company), and taste the food before for choose a bar mitzvah caterer. Don't make your decision based solely on how the food tastes. Ask yourself if you like the presentation. Is the dish pleasing to the eye, is it creative is it colorful. Do all of the foods on the plate complement each other? Also, you should bring a "foodie" friend to your bar mitzvah food tasting.

5. Keep It In Season
Great cooks plan their bar mitzvah menus around the foods that are in season. They choose the fete by whatever is freshest that month, so time of year and the corresponding temperatures plays a major role in choosing what to cook for your bar mitzvah guests. Your favorite summer tomato salad, for example, just won't be as juicy in January, so preparing some pasta in marinara sauce is a better choice for tomato lovers. Ask your caterer and family foodies for their opinions, and see if you can incorporate some of their ideas into your bar mitzvah menu.

6. Drink & Be Merry
Do not leave out the booze, because it plays a part in your overall menu, as well as the price of your overall caterer costs. Time of day and type of reception, as well as budget, and your tastes are all factors in deciding on your drink specialty. Your full six-course meal should feature wine, and your bar mitzvah brunch could include bloody Marys and mimosas. But don't forget to also offer non-alcoholic beverages. You don't need Uncle Shimon getting hammered and requesting to sing "Staying Alive" by the Bee-Gees .

7. Fit the food to your bar mitzvah style.
You'd never wear black tie to a beach volleyball game, right? Well the same goes for food. The level of formality of the menu should fit perfectly with the formality of the bar mitzvah itself. If you've decided to go with a laid back cocktail party, make sure the food you're serving fits that occasion.

A Guide to Bar Mitzvah Vendor Contracts

1. LOOK FOR FLEXIBILITY
You don't need to plan for a title wave to crash into the catering hall in Central Jersey, but if you want to ensure that the site has another space available in case of emergency, that needs to be in the contract. Do not be afraid to alter the first draft of the bar mitzvah vendor contract. A reasonable request is for them to be liable for potential negligence or willful misconduct, and if the vendor will not accommodate you, it's best to find a bar mitzvah vendor that will.

2. UNDERSTAND REFUND POLICY
Make sure your bar mitzvah vendor contract has a refund policy that states what refund you will receive if you cancel and what penalty the vendor will pay if they don't show up or cancel. For bands and DJs, you might want to include a "Chicken Dance Clause": If they play something on your written "Do Not Play" list, they must deduct a small amount from the bill. Also, put something in the bar mitzvah DJ contract that states you should receive a refund if they have equipment failure, or if the microphone is crackling all night because they forgot to pop in a new batterie.

3. PLAN TO REVISIT DETAILS
What should you do if you've made some decisions but haven't finalized details? For example, you know you want to submit a song list for your candle lighting service, but you haven't decided on each song or the order. You should include a sentence that says details will be confirmed in writing by a certain date. Make sure the bar mitzvah vendor initials this sentence, so they know they need to revisit this contract, or make another appointment with you to go over the new details.

4. BAR MITZVAH VENDOR CONTRACT CONTENTS

* Date of the party (month, date, year, and day of the week)

* Time the vendor should arrive

* Day and date an item should be delivered


Party Pointer: When dealing with vendors that are providing a service on the day of the party, make sure the contract includes the name and number of the person they should call if anything goes wrong or gets delayed.

5. KEEP YOUR RECEIPTS
When you order something, such as invitations, or favors, the contract can be as simple as a checkout receipt. Make sure you keep all of your bar mitzvah vendor receipts, and make sure they all include:

* The party's date

* Style (a number, or a detailed description)

* Date item will be picked up

* Price and payment schedule

* Outline of what the price includes (such as alterations, accessories, delivery, and envelopes)

Planning Your Bar Mitzvah? Here's some good tips

CALL A PROFESSIONAL BAR MITZVAH PLANNER
If you're a little confused or worried about how this bar mitzvah is going to come together, you may want to call a professional bar mitzvah planner to help you get started, talk about style, and help you with the timeline. Also you should check www.modernmitzvah.com for their timeline - it's really great. A good bar mitzvah planner can create a to-do list for you and get it done. A Bar Mitzvah planner can help with the fun stuff as well as the tedious tasks. Also, it's great to have an experienced bar mitzvah planner on your side when you're negotiating prices and contracts with vendors.

YOUR IDEAS WITH YOUR CHILD'S DREAMS
So, you have an idea of what a fabulous Bar Mitzvah is. You've been to a few bar mitzvahs, or a bunch of them, and you know what you like. Now, please keep in mind that your child also has a pretty clear idea of what he or she likes, it might not be easy to get them to articulate it, but they have their own dream Bar Mitzvah in mind. Unfortunately, your ideas of what's "fabulous" are not going to be exactly the same, so you'll have to strike a balance, ---this skill will definitely come in handy as your child heads into his teen years. Ah, bring in the bar mitzvah planner to help, because it's good to have a neutral person to help sort out both of your ideas and let you know what's doable and what might be hard to accomplish.

THE BAR MITZVAH GUEST LIST
You and your child are going to want to invite all of your friends and relatives to your Bar Mitzvah. Start with your bar mitzvah guest wish list. This is the fun part. Just write down everyone you can think of, then start to trim it down until you have a number that works for both your budget and your bar mitzvah venue. Lean on your bar mitzvah caterer to see what your limits are. You don't want to run out of space, food, or chairs. If you really want to add a couple more guests, relax, think, breathe, then do what makes you happy.

FIND A BAR MITZVAH PHOTOGRAPHER
If you want to remember every minute of your bar mitzvah, one way is to hire a good bar mitzvah photographer as well as a bar mitzvah videographer. Tip: start looking at least a year in advance, meet as many photographers as possible so you can compare styles and personalities. Go to www.modernmitzvah.com to check out the bar mitzvah photographers and bar mitzvah videographers in your area. Put together a list of local photographers and videographers, check out their websites, preview their work, then call to make an appointment to visit them in person. Keep in mind that personality counts, because these folks will be following you around the entire day, so you want to be sure you are comfortable in their presence.

GET THIS PARTY STARTED!!!
Great, you have the Bar Mitzvah venue, the caterer, the bar mitzvah florist, the guest list, the favors…. now it's time to add those special "Get This Party Started" ingredients...the music and entertainment! The key to a great bar mitzvah is the entertainment. An experienced bar mitzvah DJ can keep the party hopping and flowing, be a great entertainer, and keep everyone excited and having fun. A good band or DJ/MC combo can create magic on the dance floor. Tip: spend a little time thinking about your playlist which a list of the songs you want to hear and the songs you don't. An experienced DJ or band leader knows what works and what doesn't so it's a good idea to listen to them, but they should listen to you too and they should take some of your song requests. And don't forget about Bar Mitzvah games, and prizes. Most DJ companies can help you here too.

Contract Checklist for Bar Mitzvah Musicians

Contract Checklist for Bar Mitzvah Musicians
By Beth DeCosta

1. Before you check off musicians on your long list of to-dos, confirm everything with your bandleader or DJ. Be sure your letter of agreement includes:
2. Exact date of event, arrival time, and location with address.
3. Equipment that you are expected to supply and equipment they are expected to supply -- such as chairs, music stands, or amplifiers. If the musicians are bringing their own equipment, record any extra charges.
4. For bands, be sure you include exactly how many musicians you've booked -- that is, are you hiring a six-piece band or a 12-piece orchestra? Make sure you also note the instruments they'll be playing.
5. The names of the particular musicians or DJ who will play at your party, plus the names of their substitutes should there be an emergency.
6. Attire guidelines: If you have any special requirements for what the performers wear, be sure to note them.
7. A list of what will be played when. Also talk to them about some B-list songs to play should they need to fill time.
8. If you're serious about your do-not-play list, include that in your contract and attach the list.
9. Amount of time you've booked them for.
10. How many breaks are needed and when they plan to break for dinner (remember to think about what you'll do for music during these break times).
11. Fees and overtime rates. Write in a clause that ensures their flexibility should you need them to play longer.
12. Deposit and balance amounts and due dates.
13. Cancellation refund policy.
14. Your signature and the bandleader or DJ's signature.

Finding a Bar Mitzvah Band or DJ

Setting the Tone of Your Bar Mitzvah
Choose a bar mitzvah theme, then ask the DJ to help you set the tone that will go with the theme. Most people tend to remember the entertainment and the vibe of the party - they'll probably forget all about the piece of chicken that they were served - so make sure you put some energy into planning the music. Think about what musical genre best reflects your personality and inspires the ambiance you want to create. Are you trying to throw a groovy 70's funk vibe or a sophisticated string quartet? - or maybe both, you can have Classical music playing during the cocktail hour then kick it up for the reception with a swanky swing or kick-off-your-shoes-and-sweat zydeco. How the music is delivered -- by live band or DJ -- also plays a major role in the overall feel of the bar mitzvah.

Remember to Mix It Up to Keep Everyone Happy
Whether you choose a band or DJ, or whether you're a Disco or Top40 fan, be sure they play slow and fast songs. If there will be a wide range of ages at your bar mitzvah, make sure they play old and new tunes to encourage different sets of guests to hit the dance floor.

Just a Few Words On Pricing
When it comes to prices, DJs usually cost less, and prices vary depending on whether the day of the week and equipment requests. A twelve-piece band, for example, will generally be more expensive than a DJ since there are more people to pay with the exception of a celebrity DJ. They can be just as expensive as live bands. Band prices vary by the number of musicians, how long you want them to play, day of the week, what extras they bring (lights, special sound gear), travel costs, and what time of year it is.

Check Your Venue to See If There's Enough Space
Don't get your heart set on an 10-piece R&B band before you check whether your bar mitzvah venue has any restrictions on the number of musicians and pieces of equipment you may bring in, and whether there are any electrical power supply or noise limitations. Also, find out if the venue has a quiet hour. Some places have a time they're forced to shut it down - like around 9:30 or 10PM. This could cause a problem if you've had your heart set on gettn' down on the dance floor until 11:00 or 12:00. Also, a registered landmark site may not allow you to use large speakers. Ask questions!

Going with a bar mitzvah band?
Live bands really set a special tone to a bar mitzvah. Your guests will feel special walking into a catering hall to see a 8 or 10-piece dance band on a set of risers. Bar Mitzvah dance bands can energize an entire room and fit into any theme, offering everything from soul hits to klezmer pieces. A good bandleader will interact with your bar mitzvah guests, pay attention to the "feel" of the room, and select music to keep the dance floor packed and the party rocking.

· Pros: Live music is, well, live. You and your guests will experience the pleasure of a performance. Anything can happen to raise the excitement level, from an infectious horn-section interlude to a moving solo.

· Cons: Bands can be more expensive than DJs. Also, no matter how great the band, they can\'t have the repertoire of a standard DJ, who can keep an enormous variety of music on hand.

Going with a bar mitzvah DJ?
Bar Mitzvah DJs are great at offering balanced and eclectic mixes of musical styles for all ages. Since DJs play CDs and MP3s, you\'ll hear the music exactly as you know it, and this will encourage your guests to join in and sing along. Bar Mitzvah DJs take up only a small bit of space. They need a table for their mixing board and CD players, as well as some space for their speakers - this is a lot less than the amount of space a 10 piece salsa band will use.

· Pros: The biggest plus for hiring a DJ is that they are generally less expensive than bands. A DJ with a charismatic stage presence and great MC skills can easily create a vibe and keep your bar mitzvah flowing.

· Cons: A boring DJ or MC will really drag your party down. - make sure to see a live DVD of the DJ in action.

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